I’m delighted to have Katie Ganshert as my guest today. She’s a talented author with her debut novel, Wildflowers from Winter, just beginning to hit shelves across the country. She’s also my agency mate and a treasured friend.
In addition to being a published author, Katie is a busy wife and mother. Because an empty nest romance is a lot different from that of a young mom, I invited Katie to talk about what romance looks like in her chapter of life. (Lest you think I bribed her to say good things about me by offering her a shipment of chocolate, let me assure you, that is not the case. However, I think she deserves some anyhow. :-))
Take it away, Katie. . .
Keli Gwyn has been a source of inspiration. A wonderful reminder that romancing the one we love is an important part of marriage. A wonderful reminder that just because he’s a dude, the romantic responsibility does not rest on his shoulders alone.
But I will be the first to admit…
In the midst of the craziness that is launching my debut novel and planning an adoption fundraiser and taking care of my wild-child of a son, finding time to romance my hubby can get lost in the hustle and bustle of the daily grind.
I don’t think this romantic challenge is unique to women with a book coming out. I don’t think it’s unique to women who are adopting. I think any woman who has a young one (or two or three or four) at home struggles to find ways to keep the romance alive.
But like I said, Keli Gwyn has been an inspiration.
Thanks to her, I’ve been much more cognizant of romance. Much more intentional about searching for ways to show my husband that I love him, that he means the world to me, that I couldn’t do this thing called life without his love and support.
And as I search for opportunities, I’ve realized romance doesn’t have to be big. Grand gestures are great, but equally so are an accumulation of small ones.
Like pausing to give my husband a good kiss. Not a mindless, habitual kiss that happens when I’m running out the door or he’s off to work. But a good kiss. The kind of kiss Jennifer K. Hale talks about on her blog.
Like leaving my husband quick little love notes in his lunch. Sure, those Post Its are great for plotting. But they have other uses too.
Like texting him in the middle of his work day to let him know how much I love him and respect him and appreciate him. What a wonderful husband he is. What a wonderful father. Or sometimes a simple, “U R hot” works too. 🙂
Like picking up one of his favorite treats at the grocery store, then surprising him with it after dinner.
Like taking the time to flirt.
Not only are these small gestures super beneficial for our marriage, they’re great for our son too. The other night, Ryan and I got into a very playful wrestling/tickling match. We were laughing hysterically while Brogan observed from the couch.
When I glanced over at my son, he had the most precious smile on his face.
Our children want to see us acting “in love.” They also need to see that staying “in love” doesn’t just happen. It takes effort. It takes intentionality. And it’s totally, 100% worth it.
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I featured Katie on my blog not long ago. I invite you to visit that post,”Welcome Author Katie Ganshert,” to learn more about her and her debut novel. And if you haven’t read her moving story, Wildflowers from Winter, I highly recommend that you get a copy and find out for yourself why readers are posting rave reviews by the dozens.
Katie is hosting a blog hop this week, which she explained in her post, “Creating Buzz and Spreading Hope.” Since she does just that in Wildflowers from Winter, she’s invited bloggers to share “beauty from pain” stories from their real lives.
I debated joining Katie’s blog hop, because I like to keep my blog upbeat. Not only that, but I’ve suffered some real hurts in years past and don’t like to dwell on them. However, because I want to support Katie, I’ll be sharing one of my “wildflowers from winter” stories in a rare Thursday post. It’s my hope that hearing how the Lord led me through a tough time and blessed me beyond belief afterward will serve as an encouragement to others.
So, until tomorrow. . .